Newcomers

Newcomer Information

The 12 Characteristics

40 Questions for Self-Diagnosis

Learn about Withdrawal.

Sex and Love addiction may take several forms – including (but not limited to) a compulsive need for sex, extreme dependency on one person (or many), and/or a chronic preoccupation with romance, intrigue, or fantasy.
Sex and love addiction may also take the form of a compulsive avoidance of giving or receiving social, sexual, or emotional nourishment. This avoidance of intimacy is known in S.L.A.A. as anorexia.
We have found that obsessive/compulsive patterns/ exist in which relationships or sexual activities have become increasingly destructive to career, family, and sense of self-respect. Sex and love addiction lead to ever-worsening consequences if it continues unchecked.
In S.L.A.A., we learn to accept the reality of having this addiction and surrender any notion that we can control it successfully on the basis of our unaided will.
Admitting personal powerlessness over this affliction, we cease our addictive behavior and turn to guidance from a Power greater than ourselves, make restitution for harm done to others, and reconstruct our lives physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally.

Tools for the Newcomer

  • Meeting List for meetings in the area
  • Names and phone numbers of sober S.L.A.A. members
  • Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, the basic text of S.L.A.A.
  • Conference approved Literature
  • The Journal, the “meeting in print” of S.L.A.A.
  • Prayer and Meditation
  • The Twelve Steps
  • Personal Journal
  • The Serenity Prayer – “God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and Wisdom to know the difference.”

Above all KEEP COMING BACK! It works if you work it!